My siblings and I refer to it as the “Choy gene.”
When we lack confidence, when we get complacent, when we feel nervous about upcoming events for no good reason, we say it’s the Choy gene, on my mom’s side.
This gene of pessimism and fear is something I have to consciously overcome. It’s a mental weakness that makes me feel like quitting and shy away from adventure. I can’t handle emergencies and hardship. I have to remind myself: I don’t want to be like that. I can be better. I am not ruled by my genes.